At the end of the day, I always ask myself this question: “How do I feel today?”. This is a very powerful question for me to check how I feel every day whether I am happy, sad, angry, worried, fearful, excited and more. After I know how I feel, I continue asking the next question “Why do I feel so?”. With the knowledge that I have and continue asking for the main root cause, I could educate or shape my thoughts in the way that I want. However, if I don’t have enough knowledge about it, I will research more about it. Repeating this pattern every day, I could see significant positive changes in my life.
For example, one day I was so fearful because my colleague who worked so closely together passed away. He’s so young. It’s shocking news for me. He’s healthy and died by just removing a tooth. There are many points that I noted down about my feelings. I am scared, sad, and shocked. And why am I scared? Is it because he died or because I’m afraid of dying? Continue asking more questions, I finally know that I feel so because I’m afraid of dying. And I’m shocked because I never accepted that we would pass away so young. Even though I saw a lot of news about young deaths I still can’t accept it when it happens to the people so close to me.
From that feeling, what I educated myself are:
- We come to earth and we will leave for sure. So why should I worry about death?
- When life needs to come to an end, just simple things could also make us die.
- We can’t know what will happen next, so live our life to the fullest.
- If we can’t avoid death, what should we do to prepare our feelings toward it?
- For this, I did some research on this topic and then I learned what I never knew before a lot about this.
- I heard many cases of young deaths but why this time, I can’t believe that my colleague should die young.
- I researched more about this and discovered the topic of attachment. And also learned a lot from the Buddhist's point of view.
There are many more points that I could write down. After observing my feelings closely and doing the right things about them, I could feel better about the shocking news that I got. More than that, I gain more insight into life. Moreover, I added more to my knowledge bank so I could use it later.
This is the way I grow myself in technical, mental and spiritual knowledge. Have you tried this kind of question yet? Share your thoughts about this.
