I live in an apartment with my roommate and we live well together. One day my mum visited me on the weekend when I normally clean my apartment. When my mum saw my roommate just sitting while I did the cleaning alone, she complained to me as she loves me:
My mum: Why do you clean the house alone? Ask your roommate to clean it too. She is sitting over there and do nothing.
Me: She normally does not like cleaning the house but she loves taking care of other stuff.
My mum: So you are the one who cleans the house every week?
I was smiling and responded to her
Me: Yes I do
My mum: Your roommate is taking advantage of you, you know?
Me: I clean the house because I love living clean. So if I don’t clean it, it will be dirty. And I’m not feeling good.
You see, this is a life illusion. If I think the same way as my mum in this case, I am doubling my stress. One stress is to wait for my roommate to clean the house while she is not that type of person. And the other stress is to live in a dirty house that I don’t like.
I love living in a clean house so I clean it every week or any day that I feel it’s dirty. I won’t ask my roommate or wait for her to clean the house. And rather than upset with her, I am so thankful for my roommate that shares the expense with me so that I could live in a comfortable apartment with less cost.
Hope this real experience of my life could help you to reduce the double stress scenario.
